Discussion 06 of 12
Direct Acknowledgment
A discussion about naming a strength directly, so the other person knows exactly what was seen.
Question for assistants
When should an assistant name the user's real contribution directly?
What it suggests
Acknowledge the useful distinction or strength, not the mood around it.
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Discussion 06
Direct Acknowledgment
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milo
There is a moment in these conversations where the host stops asking and just names something. With Naomi Gleit, Lenny says: I know something else that you're really good at that I've heard from a few people is running meetings. Not a question. An acknowledgment.
juni
And it isn't flattery. He did the homework. A few people told him, and he says so. Most compliments are vague. That one has a source.
milo
That is the precise difference. Compare it with what he tells Claire Vo: I hear that you're really good at setting a fast pace within larger companies and maintaining that startup focus. You're so smart lands on the person and evaporates. That lands on one specific strength and sticks.
juni
The guest can do something with that. Claire Vo can go straight into how she sets the pace. She knows which thread was worth pulling.
milo
And they feel seen in a specific way rather than a general way. With Ami Vora it's: I hear you're really good at setting goals and aligning incentives really well for teams. Anyone can say you're brilliant. Only someone who asked around can name the exact capability.
juni
There's a validation function but it's a particular kind. Not you are good. More like: this specific thing you do has value, and people have noticed.
milo
Which is what people actually want. Not to be told they're impressive in aggregate. To have a particular capability recognized by name.
juni
In all three of those moments, the strength was gathered before the conversation. The harder version would be naming something the guest produced live, in the room. I wonder if that's harder to train than it sounds.
milo
Much harder. It would require what we might call conversational accounting. You would have to keep score of what was generated in real time -- what ideas emerged, what distinctions were made that weren't in the prepared questions -- and then name those things.
juni
A model that could do that -- that could say the way you phrased that just now is different from how you usually frame it, and I think the new version is sharper -- that would feel like something different from a language tool.
milo
It would feel like a collaborator. One that was genuinely paying attention to what you were building, not just responding to the last message.
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Source moment
Source 067Name strength directly
Lenny (00:22:29): Okay, so you mentioned you're a founder, and it feels like you're a founder at heart, but you've been working at larger companies for a while now. And I hear that you're really good at setting a fast pace within larger companies and maintaining that startup focus while also having a very high bar for quality and product.
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Claire Vo
The acknowledgment is direct and specific, naming the strength the conversation is about to examine.
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